I finally turned 18 last week and realised how much I have learnt about myself in the last 18 years, mainly the last few. These will inevitably change as I age but for now here are 18 things I have learnt.
1– You don’t have to be surrounded by friends- half of them aren’t your real friends and it is better to be surrounded by those who will be there for you.
2– You don’t have to change yourself for anyone. This one follows closely to the previous point, as your real friends will like you for you and if that guy you like doesn’t like you for you… he isn’t worth it.
Free Study periods are for studying- listen to your teachers about this.
4– Don’t feel pressure from anyone but yourself- exam results are most important to you, your job is what you have to do day in and day out and the university you choose will be experienced by you.
5– It’s ok to feel alone and its ok to tell someone.
6– Going out with your parents isn’t embarrassing, even if they’re embarrassing.
7– Most negative things will pass- and they most likely happened for a reason/ you will learn from them.
8– Treat yourself well- go out, eat what you want and see that movie you have been desperate to see.
9– A-levels aren’t easy and it’s more than ok to struggle- most people are in the same boat so chat to someone when things are tricky.
10– Change is inevitable, don’t avoid it but it’s ok to struggle- if change didn’t happen you wouldn’t have space to grow so face it and brace for it.
11– Things will eventually click- A-levels, driving, understanding others…
12– If you don’t challenge yourself you will not grow.
13– You shouldn’t feel guilty for doing other things than studying- I never quite cracked this one but I have learnt that I need to. It’s unhealthy to study in all your free time and it’s unhealthy to feel guilty when you should be enjoying other things.
14– Read- either to escape from studying and support your studying. If you didn’t understand something in the lesson read about it and if you can’t manage anymore studying, read to escape.
15– If you like it, wear it.
16– Something you hate about yourself could be the thing that someone else falls in love with- so be yourself.
17– Often if you have high expectations, you will be let down- don’t expect the best or the worst.
18– Do what makes you happy.
Wish me luck for adulthood.